Saturday, April 28, 2007


Holding your state.

There is a famous poem by Rudyard Kipling that starts:

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

And this embodies the theme for this week; keeping your state. How often are we in a good space and yet when someone near us loses their good state we follow suit. Part of living with the bigger picture in mind is being strong enough within to hold our inner state when the world around us goes haywire. One clue to handle these situations is to know that it is not personal. We might be involved simply by being in the same place at the same time, but it is not personal to us, it is not because of us.

For example a work colleague might be going through a tough time and being grumpy, negative and generally not good company. We can either allow ourselves to become effected by this energy and start being grumpy in unison, or we can remind ourselves that this energy that surrounds us is not actually anything to do with us. We didn’t create it and it is only personal to us if we make it personal. In other words it wasn’t any action on our part that created this feeling and therefore we do not have to take the ‘blame’ for it.

This might sound like a technicality but if we can simply have the phrase ‘don’t take it personally’ running through our minds it does help us to take a step back and see the situation for what it is. Someone other than ourselves is going through a challenging time and although we want to be empathetic and sympathetic we do not have to take it on, in fact the best support we can be is to hold our own space of equilibrium. In this way we mirror a different place and hold it for them to move towards.

Another useful tool in this particular box is for us to only focus on what we do like about the situation. Instead of nagging and asking them to stop their negative behaviour – which they obviously can’t or they would – we can simply focus on and acknowledge what we do like. So if they say or do something that improves the situation we can acknowledge it in some way, and the rest we simply leave be. By focusing on the positive we utilize the law of attraction and draw more towards us both.

So, if you are in a situation, be it with friends or your partner, at work or maybe within your family, remember that the best thing we can do for anyone around us who is having a hard time and feeling down is to hold our state, don’t take it personally and mirror an alternative way of being. That’s loving support.


If you would like to see the whole poem, If, go to:
http://www.swarthmore.edu/~apreset1/docs/if.html

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Friday, April 20, 2007


Windows of Opportunity

I had a conversation with a new client this week in which he felt very confused and uncertain about what the next step to take was. Plans that he had made had not come to fruition and unforeseen events had created yet more things to take into consideration when making his ‘next step’ decision.

Of course there are lots of practical steps you can take to help you make a ‘next step’ decision. List the pros and cons, look at the consequences of each path of action, see where one course of action will impact in another area of life, see where your passion lies. The more information you gather the easier it is to get a clearer picture of what is the best way forward.

However, there is another way of looking at these confusing times of indecision. That is to see them as windows of opportunity. Often we attract what we feel is a chaotic situation into our lives for a reason. The reason can be because hidden behind all the chaos is an opportunity. It may be an opportunity that you have not seen before or perhaps it is one that you haven’t been able to take up before now. Or maybe it is such a big change that you have avoided it again and again and it has once more presented itself to you. Either way, here you are in this uncertain space, and the gift in this is to see it for what it is. Nothing happens by chance, and if you can just slow down enough to take a good look around, you might discern what it is that is waiting for you. It is tempting to hurry a decision at times like these, but what I often tell my clients is to actually take more time. If needs be, put an interim solution in place so you have the luxury of time. These windows of opportunity can be very meaningful and need to be recognised as such.

So if you find yourself in a chaotic, confused place in your life recognise that it is an opportunity, and give yourself the space to reflect on your circumstances. Take time to dip into the quiet space of your mind and see what guidance you are given. Don’t be in a hurry to rush through to that feeling of safety, instead know that you are truly on the edge of a breakthrough, a moment in time when you can consciously choose something new and different. This is a time when you can head off in a direction that has been waiting for you, and an opportunity to finally see and step through the open window.


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Friday, April 13, 2007


Falling into the upward spiral.

I know that each of us is on a journey and many have dreams and wishes for what we’d like to create in our lives. We work towards building something new and more fulfilling, becoming a truer, higher version of ourselves, and are committed to the journey and the goal, whatever we deem that to be.

I asked a friend recently, “are you living the life of your dreams?” and she replied no, not yet, but I am enjoying what I am doing towards it. And this I think is a key to happiness. Yes we all have goals and dreams, but it is being present in today and loving today that gives us true living happiness. As Caroline Myss once said - fall in love with the life you’ve got.

In this way you enjoy the journey, live the journey and learn from the journey. At the same time your energy moves to a higher, finer vibration and you draw towards you more of what you like, more of what you enjoy. It is a wonderful upward spiral.

So today’s short and sweet message to you all is to see that your dreams all have one thing in common - to be happy, to feel fulfilled. So, by falling in love with the life you have, falling into the upward spiral, you make today the day of your dreams.

Happy Day!


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Friday, April 06, 2007


Changing our minds

There has been a lot of discussion recently, in light of the world-sweeping movie The Secret, about the Law of Attraction. As with all ideas when people first come across it an excitement ripples through, however the key to using a law like this is perseverance. To keeping it working in your life after the initial enthusiasm wears off.

Why does it wear off? Well, we are rather like stately liners at sea, move the rudder and it still takes a while to change course. It is easy to get despondent if we cannot see the change of course immediately. Speaking about this with a few of my clients the main challenge most people talk about is keeping their thoughts on the positive. It is challenging when they don’t feel so good, when the day hasn’t gone so well and it all feels a bit flat. If you read the Teaching of Abraham with Esther & Jerry Hicks you will soon find out that the Law of Attraction works for our thoughts as well as many other things in our life.

If we are thinking sad, angry or frustrated thoughts we are not going to able to attract happy, joyful blissed out thoughts. They are too far apart and will jar with where we are right now. We will be unable to hold them. So, if you wish to use this law to move your emotional state towards happiness what is it that you can do?

Move your thoughts one step up the ladder. In other words if you are feeling angry perhaps you can move to frustrated. Or if you are feeling frustrated perhaps you could move towards optimistic. Each move up the ladder then draws more thoughts equal to this vibration. Once you are in the next vibration the law can then attract the following one. In this way we can move up the vibrational ladder towards happiness.

I have found that once you are aware of this idea it doesn’t take much time to progress. The more you use the Law of Attraction to draw towards you better and better thoughts, the less time it takes to bring yourself back into alignment with whatever you are wanting to create in your life.

So, next time you find yourself in an emotional state that does not correspond with what you want in your life ask yourself “what thoughts can I focus on right now? What would move me towards my goal?” As I say to many people, what have you got to lose? Plus, there is a large chance you’ll feel happier!

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